By: Nicole Colwell, STPRC volunteer
According to an article on the WomensHealth.gov website, about half of all pregnancies are unplanned. Perhaps you have recently found out that you are pregnant. It’s possible that it came as quite a shock to you, and you’re now unsure of what to do, or how to react.
Here at the Southern Tier PRC in , we help women and families who are encountering unplanned pregnancies. Here are a few of the common reactions we see in the women who visit the Center.
Concern that the baby’s father will not be happy about the news - This is one of the most common fears that women have when they find out when encountering an unplanned pregnancy. Many of them worry that their partner is going to want them to have an abortion. Some of them worry that their partner will leave them.
Worry that you can’t afford a baby - There’s no doubt that having a baby is expensive. Not only is prenatal care costly, but once the baby is born, paying for clothes, formula and other baby essentials can be pretty taxing on your income.
Unsure of your ability to handle being pregnant for nine months - If your pregnancy is unplanned, you might be concerned about feeling depressed or anxious during the next nine months. You may have other children to care for, or other responsibilities that will make being pregnant very difficult for you.
Fear for your future plans - Whether you’re a student in high school who has had a positive pregnancy test, or you thought your child-bearing days were over, finding out that you’re pregnant can make you very fearful about your future. It’s disheartening to think that you will have to put your plans on hold, or perhaps have to give up your goals altogether.
If any of these sound familiar to you, we want you to know that we understand, and we’re here to help you. We hope that these truths will offer you some encouragement:
Here at the Southern Tier PRC, we are dedicated to helping women and men just like you. Our services include offering free pregnancy tests, free options counseling, free ultrasounds, and much more. We are excited to be able to offer you with materials assistance as well as referrals to many community agencies who will rally around you during this important time in your life.
If you believe you might be pregnant, it can feel as though you’re facing a crisis. You may feel the need to make a quick decision, but that quick decision will affect you for the rest of your life. Contrary to popular belief, it’s important for you to get the education you need about your options before making any decisions regarding your health, or the health of your unborn baby.
If you would like to make an appointment with the Southern Tier PRC, we would love to talk with you. Our peer counselors will help you navigate this difficult time, and all of our services are always free. To make your appointment, please contact us today.
6/7/2017 11:04:13 am
My best friend's daughter just told him that she's pregnant. It was a surprise to all of us, and although we're not supportive of the actions she took to get here, we're supportive of her in helping her with the consequences. I like your tip to talk with a counselor to help alleviate fears. Even though we're supportive, I can tell she's quite worried about the pregnancy.
She will need supportive people in her life so it's wonderful you and others are there for her. The STPRC can provide information about all pregnancy options (we provide info on abortion procedures but do not refer for abortion), connect her with community resources that she may benefit from, as well as simply be a listening ear as she processes this new pregnancy and considers the outcome. Feel free to call 607-732-2111 or text 607-398-0707 if she would like to make an appointment. Loving, listening, and helping are key!
4/26/2018 09:36:56 am
I like what you said about being pregnant not meaning that you have to put your plans on hold. My friend just found out that she is pregnant and doesn't know about how she's going to handle work in the future or if this means that she has to put everything on hold. I think that this would really help her, especially to know that there are a lot of options that would make it easy to follow her plans with a baby.
9/24/2020 02:40:38 pm
My cousin hasn't planned for a child and she doesn't know what to do but she really doesn't have the financial resources to take care of a kid. She has been thinking about finding a professional organization that will help her find a solution to make sure that they can be safe and make a better legal decision. Thanks for your tips about how there are a lot of costs and she needs to be more educated about what options she has.
11/5/2020 11:38:33 am
That was a very detailed post. It couldn't be written any better. I am glad that you shared such a informational post with us.
1/13/2021 03:49:41 am
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10/26/2022 10:45:58 am
Very informative content keep it up
It got me when you said that you might feel depressed or anxious because of an unplanned pregnancy. I think that is what my sister is experiencing right now, and she plans to get an ultrasound to confirm if she really is pregnant. She just had a one-night stand with a guy he barely knew which is why she has to take her time to make a decision if she will pursue this or not.
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